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How To Overcome Stress

Overcoming stress or overwhelm in your business can be one of the hardest emotional and physical challenges you face.  Here in the first part of a two part series on overcoming stress, I present one awesome tool for you to use.

Before we get onto that, let’s be honest here.

You might not even know you are experiencing stress or overwhelm.  Take a moment and look at the feelings or statements and ask yourself if any of these sound familiar to you?

“I’m overwhelmed, torn and frustrated”

“My business is time consuming and tiring”

“I’m spreading myself too thin”

“I’m exhausted”

“I have to force myself to take action”

“I can’t make a decent living”

“I’ve got lack of structure”

“I’ve got a lack of clarity”

“I’m pulled in so many different directions, there’s distractions everywhere”

If you said yes to any of the above then read on!

Overcoming Overwhelm – Are You In Flow?

If any of the above statements rang true for you then take note.  These are the words that come from someone who is out of flow.

When I say flow – I mean what Carl Jung called synchronicity, the collective unconscious.  When we are in flow, i.e, doing what we love to do and it comes so easily to us it doesn’t even feel like work, then we somehow attract positive coincidences, experiences, situations, opportunities.

When we are out of flow – we experience stress and overwhelm.

So, this is why you need to get back in flow.

How To Overcome Stress – The Habit Of Connection

To overcome your feeling of overwhelm and stress, I want to suggest one lifestyle tool you can use everyday to start creating connection.  I call this your connection habit.

The habit of connection is about reconnecting to your soul, to the collective unconscious, the universe, what God wants for you, for your soul – that’s what you need to reconnect to.

Because when you have your connection, you’ll be creating synchronicity, you’ll be tapping into that collective unconscious, you’ll be creating flow. Magic will happen to you, but it will be no accident and that’s where your ultimate lifestyle business comes from.

So, the secret to overcoming overwhelm and getting back into our sense of flow, the secret is maintaining connection regularly. We’ve got to have a habit of connection and if you want to create your ultimate lifestyle or you just want to eradicate stress or overwhelm then you must create a connection habit.

That means it’s not something that happens once, it’s not something that happens twice. It’s something that happens everyday. You stay connected and every single day, you need to make sure that you do that.

And so what we need to do is to create that habit connection?

We’ll look at that in Part Two.

How To Create Your Dream Lifestyle

Creating your dream lifestyle is not a myth.  It can be your reality.

Take a moment to imagine your dream lifestyle.  What would it involve?  For most people, it involves some of the following ingredients:

  • Foreign travel
  • More time off to relax and pursue your hobbies
  • Quality time with your family and friends
  • New clothes
  • New hairstyles
  • New cars!

And the list goes on . . .

The Myth

But here’s where the myth begins.

Most people believe all this is beyond their grasp. As a child, all this seemed possible and yet as adult-hood sunk its cynical claws in, these goals become dreams, which in turn become ideals, which in turn become a faraway concept forever out of your grasp…

But this doesn’t have to be the case.

You Can Create Your Dream Lifestyle.

It’s just that most people don’t know HOW to create their dream lifestyle. And the sad fact is . . . it’s actually far easier than people think! People chase the magic pill of success which will change their lives, but as a business owner, if you just focus on the following 3 strategies and apply yourself, you can create your dream lifestyle.

  1. Increase Your Income: Using smart and effective marketing strategies you can increase both the number of customers you have and the amount each customer spends. Which will in turn…..
  2. Give You More Time Off: As you bring more money into your business you won’t have to work so hard. The goal here is to free up 25% of your time (minimum) to work toward passive income streams.
  3. Leverage Your Business Into Passive Income: You will then be able to select the quickest and easiest way to create passive income, in a way that works WITH your natural talents; not against them.

By following these 3 strategies, you could be on your way to creating your dream lifestyle. Don’t be one of the masses, why not take a step this week toward increasing your income so you can get more time off and leverage your business into passive income. . . . You never know, your dream lifestyle could be just around the corner.


Love Sex Business: Interview with Dr Joanna Martin and Greg Elliott

Working with your husband or wife is not an easy thing. Not only do you share your meals, your holidays and your bed… but you’re also expected to be not merely civil, but also co-operative and efficient during working hours as you strive to grow a business together.

Greg and I have been working together now for 3 years on your business, Shift Speaker Training. And as a celebration of our recently getting married I thought I’d share this great interview we did together with Shelley Wineberg of

I’m interested in your thoughts. How do you find working with your husband or wife? Is this something you would be interested in finding out more about?

Do let me know in the comments!

Here’s the interview.  Right click on the link if you’d like to download it onto your computer to listen to later.

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Welcome to 2011!

Welcome to 2011!  I hope you had an amazing Christmas break and a fun New Year.  The holidays have passed so quickly and I can’t believe it’s the start of a new year and more importantly, only 10 days to our wedding!

This Christmas heralded the start of a new dawn . . . the patter of tiny feet.  No, not our own!  At least not just yet.   But this Christmas was a happy portent for Christmasses to come!  At Greg’s brother’s house on Christmas day we had the pleasure of Charlotte, Greg’s 2 year old niece, and then at dinner at my dad’s house we had my little cousins running happily around us.  As you know, our intention for 2011 is to create our own babies so it was great to get some practice!

On New Year’s Eve, we went to the beach near our new home in Williamstown, Melbourne, to sit and watch the fireworks cascade over the city.  Fireworks are such a dramatic way to bring in the new year – they beckon excitement and wonder and I love relating them to business.  As each rocket exploded over the city, I imagined how many of your businesses will take off and explode into profit this year. 

Profit comes with good planning and the right intentions.  If you want to set some intentions, now’s the perfect time to do it.  In the meantime, happy new year!

3 Quick Steps To Boost Your Vitality

What’s good health got to do with lifestyle?  Well, read on and find out…

“It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.
– Mahatma Gandhi

Speaking from a Doctor’s point of view good health is the cornerstone to everything.  It’s the founding bed for relationships, for business, for love and for life.  Ironically, there’s nothing like a bout of sickness to make one appreciate life.   Without good health there is nothing.

So, that’s why it’s important to not just stay healthy, but also to take active steps to live a healthier life in order to support your business.   If we equate good health with good vitality, in business terms, it’s this inner vitality that makes you brim with ideas, burst with passion, thrive on life. 

These 3 easy to follow steps will help stay connected to your own inner powerhouse…

  1. May The Force Be With You
    “The Force is what gives a Jedi his power. It’s an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us. It binds the galaxy together.”
    – Ben Obi-Wan Kenobi – Star Wars Episode IV, A New Hope

    Our energy is not just self-created.  If you believe, as I do, that we are connected to something greater than ourselves – connected to the Universe or source energy (however you wish to call it) – then this external energy is always there to call upon when we need it.

    How do we summon this energy field?  The easiest way is through a daily meditation practice, visualisation techniques, or simply by taking a moment to be in nature. This is a great tip if you start to flag in the afternoon.  Think beyond your own existence and tap into that which is vaster than you.

  2. Water Is A Source Of Energy
    “To keep the body in good health is a duty, for otherwise we shall not be able to trim the lamp of wisdom, and keep our mind strong and clear. Water surrounds the lotus flower, but does not wet its petals.”
    –  Buddha

    Do what Doctor Joanna orders and drink plenty of water throughout the day.  Did you know that the human body is anywhere from 55% to 78% water depending on body size? A rule of thumb, 2/3 of body is consists of water, and it is the main component of human body. The functions of water in a human body are vital. 
    • Transpsorts nutrients and oxygen into cells
    • Moisturizes the air in lungs
    • Helps with metabolism
    • Protects our vital organs
    • Helps our organs to absorb nutrients better
    • Regulates body temperature
    • Detoxifies
    • Protects and moisturizes our joints

    Every cell in your body needs water from head to toe. That is why it is so important to drink enough fluid.  The brain for example, consists of 90% of water, if you do not supply enough water to your body, your brain cannot function well, and you will get a headache or migraine.  Not great for business…..

  3. Sleep Like A Cat.
    “Eat well, drink in moderation, and sleep sound, in these three good health abound.”
    – Proverb

    No, I didn’t mean actually miaow.  I mean have a cat-nap. An afternoon siesta is common practice in places like Spain and Italy. In our multitasking, high-pressure work environments, a cat-nap isn’t a sign of laziness. It’s necessary to our well-being and job performance.  If you’re lucky, some companies even tout a “wellness room” where you don’t have to hide your need for sleep.
    A NASA study showed people got as much as a 34% boost in performance with a 26-minute cat-nap.  Why not give it a go and see if it restores your energy?

Bonus Tip – Love!

What I know is, is that if you do work that you love, and the work fulfills you, the rest will come.
– Oprah Winfrey

OK, so this is not really a tip.  It’s just I couldn’t go the whole article without mentioning love – not the way I am feeling right now!  In truth though, I’ve always spoken about following your heart in business   Connect with your passion, do what you love and the money will come.  Make time to listen to your heart today.  The more you pay it attention, the more you can follow its beat.

All of these tips are easy to implement now and don’t take any great lifestyle changes.  But they will affect your health and consequently, your lifestyle for the positive.  They’re 5 or 10 minute routines (or a bit longer for the snooze) and you can slip all of them easily into your daily working life.  Try it this week, and see if it makes a difference to your vitality.